My husband bought me this T-shirt as a joke, because I love silly T-shirts. But as I started to think about it, why do I think that I need to pretend I’m fine? I think as mothers we always say we’re “fine” when we really aren’t. With the pandemic, and all the sad things happening in the world, it’s lot to think about.
We wear so many hats as moms, and sometimes I wish I wore a few less.
People often refer to moms as superheroes. It’s a fun title and a compliment, but even superheroes need a break. Sometimes we need help. And it’s OK to ask for it. Whether it’s your spouse, grandparent, or a friend…It’s OK to say you can’t do it all.
I recently went to my general doctor and had a real, open talk with her. I told her how stressed I’ve been. How grumpy I can be and that I haven’t enjoyed being a mom as much as I used to. After a long conversation, I decided I wanted to try some anxiety medication. She was pleased I was open to the idea of taking something to help me.
After a few weeks of taking the medication, I feel so much better. I wake up ready for a new day. I enjoy playing with my kids more, and I’m nicer to my husband. I still have stressful days; medication isn’t a magical cure-all, but it’s helping. I also have to make some adjustments to my lifestyle, and realize that I can’t do it all alone. I need to ask for help and be open with my husband. I am making myself a priority again and taking time for myself. I sometimes hide in the closet for a mommy time out and my husband gives me those few minutes to escape and take a deep breath.
So if you’re having feelings like this, know you aren’t alone. Please reach out to a friend or ask for help. And I hope you start to feel better soon. Hugs, mama.
