I recently found out the sex of my second child: another boy, due in January. Everyone’s immediate response was excitement, followed by, “Are you going to try for a girl next??” NO. My husband and I decided before we were married that two kids would complete our family. No matter what the sex was, we were going to be happy with two.
Before I had kids, I always fantasized about having one boy and one girl. I grew up the oldest and have one younger sister. I was a shy child and always wished I had an older brother to stand up for me. Having a sister was annoying when I was younger because I had to share EVERYTHING I had, but now my sister and I are best friends and I am grateful for having a sibling that understands me, because we are the same sex and understand each others emotions and feelings on the same level.
When I was pregnant with my first son, I was so nervous and scared because I didn’t know how to “do boys.” I grew up in a family filled with girls and women, and boys were just confusing to me. With my son, I was pleasantly surprised and shocked by how easy going he was, especially as a baby. I know my son may be the exception, but boys seemed easy.
In my own experience, I saw all my friends with girls and their lives were filled with drama constantly. I am a laid-back mom, I don’t fuss over how I dress or how my son dresses, so I can’t imagine having a girl and dealing with bows, dresses, skirts, skorts, tanks, jumpers, and the endless wardrobe possibilities that little girls have. Boys are easy; they throw on a simple t-shirt and pants and we are out the door. If we are feeling fancy, throw a polo or collared shirt on and you are ready to hit the town.
Everyone’s experience is different, but I’m glad I was blessed with two boys. I will be raising men who will respect everyone’s opinions and values and I get to show them how to treat women with respect and love no matter what. I am happy I get to be a “boy mom.” I now know how they work and I can’t wait to experience the craziness. My son is a mama’s boy, and I love it. He’s very much a rambunctious boy who gets into everything and loves to be adventurous and daring. But he also loves to cuddle and give hugs and kisses to his mama.
Whether you are a family with one or six kids with boys or girls, each family knows how much love they need to complete their family, and no matter what, a healthy and happy child is the most important thing in any family.